Me: ‘When I was your age, we didn’t have tablets or mobile phones and children’s TV was only on for an hour each day!’
K (rolling her eyes): ‘Yea, yea, and you couldn’t pause or rewind and the world was black and white, we know!’
Me (under my breath): ‘Cheeky moo…………’

I promise, if you cut your kid’s screen time, you won’t regret it! This is not a post boasting about how my kids don’t watch television or play continuously on their tablets. I’m not claiming to be some sort of martyr where I regularly battle through life, refusing screen time because it is the root of all-evil, the easy way out and the epitome of bad parenting! The truth is, my kids (6, 8 & 11), like most, enjoy a bit of screen time and us parents, like most, enjoy the quiet time it brings. However, we recently realised, even with some restrictions in place, they were doing little else in their free time. When I found gifts from Christmas, still unopened in their boxes, I decided that enough was enough! They are children and they need guidance, they will thank me for it later!

Buzymum - How to limit your child's screen time. How we did it and how we feel it has benefited our children aged 6,8 and 11.

From quite early on we’ve had a ‘no TV before school’ rule.

This was mainly due to the need to get all three of them out of the house in the morning. My children are immediately hypnotised by a screen and become ‘deaf zombies’, unable to do anything while the television is on. This was later extended to ‘no TV on school nights’ (Mon-Thurs) as we have activities after school most days, sometimes in multiple locations, with clubs, dyslexia tutors and sports, meaning that we are rarely home before 6.30pm. Homework then has to be fitted in before bedtime (which we find works best after dinner) as well as food and ‘calm-down time’, reading and cuddles. Bedtime is usually around 8pm so there is just no time for TV! Plus the fact that TV is stimulating and therefore, not good for children (or adults!) right before bed. Following our recent struggles with K’s prepubescent hormones and difficulty sleeping, I really don’t need added stimulants at bedtime!

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Our screen rules so far haven’t been made because ‘they have too much screen time’. Though, keeping that time to weekends and holidays did also seem like a fair compromise! There is also the added bonus of using it as a treat during the week and suddenly, they think I’m the best mum in the world!! Win, win!!

So why cut screen time further?

All that said, I began to notice, their weekends (around a couple of sports clubs) were becoming screen dominated. They were waking earlier, knowing that they could play on tablets or switch on the TV before breakfast. Lego (that The Boy would paddy over leaving during the week) lay idle and untouched on the bedroom floor. The art kits (that K had begged for) sat, unopened in their boxes and the cartwheeling, monkey bar swinging gymnast in the family, sat glued to some American teen series with her headphones on! Of course, we enjoyed the piece and ability to get on with stuff around the house.

Screens are addictive.

The calm that came with screen time was addictive for us too. After all, they work hard at school in the week, they are active kids with varied interests, why not let them sit on a tablet all weekend, if that’s what they choose? But, the fact is, it is addictive. All things considered, it is a mindless activity that’s designed to draw them into that world and therefore take them out of this one. Screens provide an activity that does have a place but does not take the place of play.

My children weren’t playing any more.

They weren’t interacting in their fabulous role-play games anymore. Games where they were a family of lions or group of orphans whose parents had died tragically or something where The Boy is the dog (he’s usually the dog!). Listening to their wild imaginations, varying accents/ voices and storylines was lovely and often hilarious! They weren’t dressing up as Spiderman, fighting over the ownership of a large cardboard box or running around, being children. So, in came a new rule! Weekend and holiday screen time is now before breakfast in the morning (after 7am) and 5-7pm in the evening. We did consider ‘earning’ screen time but to be honest, that’s just too much hard work right now!

Honestly, cut your kid’s screen time!

I have to admit, it was a bit of a struggle at first with the expected ‘there’s nothing to do’ and ‘I’m bored’. It was worth persevering though, as it didn’t take long for them to get creative again. They do sometimes need a shove in the right direction. I might get out the art box with the contents of the recycling box or set up a mini Ninja Warrior circuit in the garden! Generally though, their imaginations are fully intact and they are still perfectly capable of playing. They create and compete with each other without our interference or screens being involved! Despite their initial reluctance, I know I’ve done the right thing when I hear them laughing uncontrollably, watch them proudly unveil a piece of artwork or taste a biscuit they’ve made.

‘I know they are happier ‘doing’, rather than watching someone else doing something!’

We haven’t carved these screen rules in stone, they get broken every now and again. However, they have helped us find a healthy balance between screen and play time, that they couldn’t find themselves. We still occasionally use screen time to get some piece, make an important phone call or finish a job. Screens have their place and have saved my sanity on more than one occasion! Now that K has a phone and moves up to high school in September, I’m sure more issues will arise. I can feel more rules coming on!!

What are your screen time rules? Is it something you have tackled or have your children found their own balance? Perhaps pod-casts could be worth considering as an alternative? This post over on Empirical Mama checks out the best free pod-casts for kids.

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10 thoughts on “Cut Your Kid’s Screen Time, You Won’t Regret it!

  • 23rd May 2017 at 9:23 am

    We have no screen time on nursery days, no screens before breakfast the rest of the week, and no screen time for an hour before bed. I’ve been thinking about restricting it more, but I’ll admit I find that easier on weekdays when their dad isn’t home! He’s a total TV addict, whereas I would happily have it off all day until the kids are in bed. Sometimes feel like I’m telling off another child haha!! Sounds like you’re doing so well with this! #DreamTeam

    • 23rd May 2017 at 9:30 am

      Funny- that’s the same with us! When J is around, he puts the telly on and the kids say ‘Well Dad’s watching it so why can’t we?’. I just give him ‘the look’ and he usually gets the message! Like you say, another child!! ?

  • 23rd May 2017 at 2:59 pm

    I’ve always been quite strict about screen time (the only week-day screen time is while I’m making the evening meal, with weekends being a little more relaxed but still limited). But we recently got a free subscription to Netflix where you choose a programme and the episodes just keep coming. We wanted to make the most of our trial so I didn’t put up much of a fight and just let them watch. But their behaviour deteriorated – grumpy, rude, ungrateful. Hubby and I decided to put a stop to it and limit their screen time again and the change was undeniable. They were back to their lovely selves again. It’s made me more determined than ever to limit what they watch and how much #dreamteam

    • 23rd May 2017 at 3:01 pm

      Interesting how it effects them as that’s exactly what happens with my kids- especially when they watch the American teen series’s! Xx

  • 23rd May 2017 at 9:02 pm

    I’m with you on this one. I’ve cut back on screen time for similar reasons. In the morning before school the deaf zombie was in our house too, so no screens before school. After school is dominated by homework, activities and play and before bed is out of the question as it just creates arguments before bed! We’re a bit more relaxed about it at weekend though x

  • 28th May 2017 at 9:36 pm

    We get the deaf zombie look too when the tv is on. It really is like they have been entirely hypnotized. I have to admit that I love unwinding with the tv on in the evenings. But when it comes to the little one, less screen time equals much better behavior and that alone is enough to convince me that rationing is a must. #DreamTeam

  • 9th February 2018 at 5:26 pm

    Oh my goodness, I can so relate to this article and to the comments from Lucy above. The change in the personalities of my kids can be exactly like this, too…. from lovely kids, to – as you say – being rude and ungrateful. Putting some rules in place really does make for a happier home environment for everyone. A really interesting article!

    • 9th February 2018 at 6:39 pm

      It’s amazing isn’t it- their behaviour change! We often fall into the trap of ‘it’s the easy option’ but it so ‘bites us on the bum’ if we allow it to continue! Putting in these rules was the best but hardest thing I’ve had to enforce as a parent- well worth it though!! Xx


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